Even with the young gals….maybe especially. Just because they say they “prefer” it doesn’t mean these men get them. The great majority of young women–not “younger”, young–will not have anything to do with much-older men. I am very attractive and have not too many prospects. I think it is more that your path has not crossed yet with that woman who is perfect for you. The timing of these things is not always our timing.
I was a loyal, caring wife believing we’d be together until old age. He cheated on me more than once and I stupidly kept him in my life until he finally wanted out. I did not want kids and he was ok with that until he had a midlife crisis. Then he wanted a divorce so he could go on to have his own kids. Even that was a lie because he married someone soon after the divorce and she had older children. She never gave him a baby, and it turns out he’d been in contact with her for years while he and I were married.
Whether it's dinner with girlfriends or a quiet evening by yourself at a local pub, GET OUT. You won't meet anyone sitting at home and complaining about not being able to meet anyone. I read that as “Let’s have sex tonight! ” though that may not have been his intention.
I have to take a break because I am truly tired of getting burned. It takes one hell of a nerve to get back out there at 51 and give it your all. I’d like to know where the good guys all are…..supposedly there are 20 of them close by…….lol….that’s a big joke. I would be happy to run into just one nice guy who wants a relationship with an attractive, affectionate, caring woman. My wife and I have been married for about 7 yrs now.
College was filled with 10-20k single women around your age and that shared more or less the same interests and political views. Meeting and dating women was easy when you had hundreds of compatible single women living in your very own building. This changes a bit when you graduate college, but still, there are plenty of single women in their 20s to choose from. The dating aspect is very difficult at this age, period.
The key ladies is having self confidence in yourself. Then again I look nowhere near 51…I look no older than 35. Good genes runs in my family I guess. My 31 yr old daughter still get ID’s for lottery tickets and look 18.
The few high quality women are usually taken and stay taken as they don’t destroy good relationships thinking they might be able to do better. Remember, clocks and calendars only move in one direction, FORWARD. You can give up but time will still move forward and you will move with it. Things will get better, you just have to give it time.
My mind and emotions flow which tends to alienate me from my fellows. Few can follow the threads of thought. I want a friend who can talk about Sartre to Siddhartha, politics to poetry and yet still weep and the words of Yeats.
I have to admit that I am guilty of scrutinizing against short men online. I am 5’4″ as well, but like to wear tall sexy heels. Being with a tall man allows me to walk tall and straight in my heels while at the same time making me feel more petite without slouching. I dated a guy that was 5’8″ once and felt uncomfortable all the time. My boyfriend is 5’10”, my minimum cut off. Even that is a little too short for me coming from being married to an over 6′ man.
You can be prime real estate in front of their nose and guys just don’t care. I am the best he’d ever hope to have in his life, him being a recovering drug addict with a heart ready to give out. Maybe I’m the foolish one for giving a human being who had a hard life a chance for something good. I’m 50 yrs old almost 51 and have absolutely no problem attracting men. At one time I had no less than 15 male friends between ages of in my phone.
I started going out about a year after becoming a widower. My wife had two children from prior marriage who were outraged. Our two sons were ok with me going off. I would not call it dating at first.
The reason successful older men prefer to date younger women is because THEY CAN. Women are not attracted to youth. Women are attracted to confidence I Want Blacks and power. As part of your account, you’ll receive occasional updates and offers from New York, which you can opt out of anytime.
Know that the person you are today is just as appealing as the person you were years ago. Most older people have had much more experience in life and are more likely to be open to dating someone that makes them feel cared for and happy. You should be willing to compromise some of your less important restrictions (e.g. hair color or music preference) so that you can find someone who meets your most important needs. As you grow comfortable with your own identity, many of these things will matter very little to you anyway. There are some common deal breakers for people dating in their older age.
